If your soul is not growing then it's dying!

Are YOU living or dying?

Are you making each moment count and actively seeking solutions to your challenges and working hard in your worship, studies, work, relationship, life, business?

Are you constantly learning and applying?

Are you making a difference to the lives of others and becoming an asset to humanity which you are meant to be now?

On the Day of Judgment we will stand alone in front of God - all those whom we love and those who we go crazy over will be standing alone too!

Each of us will be accounting for our own life - what we did with it and how we spent our time.

We think we have all the time in the world - but do we really?

How many do we know were here with us a year ago and now they're gone!

Take a moment and picture yourself now on the Day of Judgment standing in front of God alone with your book of deeds and ready to account...

He (God) will say, “How many years did you stay on the earth?”  They will say: “We stayed a day or part of a day....”  [Quran; 23:112-113]

And what is our purpose here?

Why are we suffering so much?

Why are we hurting?

Why are we so negative?

Why do we live in drama and create drama?

When someone helps us why do we reject it?

This victim mentality does not serve us!

 We are created for a reason - we must excel and grow!

"Did you then think that We had created you in jest (without any purpose), and that you would not be returned to Us (in the Hereafter)? So, God is exalted, the True King. None has the right to be worshiped but Him...[Qur'an; 23:115-116]

We will all return to God!

THIS is our reality which the Qur'an teaches us over and over.

This is what our Prophet was teaching us!

Yet - we get caught up in our head and the stories we tell ourselves over and over - (usually these stories don't exit - we make them up) and then we make ourselves suffer and then years and years go by and then we wake up and realise we don't have the energy we used to - we don't have that strength - we are not youthful - we have more responsibilities!

We weren't created to just work and pay the bills!

Yes, that is part of life but NO that is NOT life itself!

Life is much more - it has tests and trials to teach us, guide us and purify us.

God has blessed us - in fact gifted us - with so many skills, talents and abilities that most of us are not even using.

Is that YOU?

Are YOU afraid what 'others' will think of you if you step up and shine your light?

I did and guess what...i still do!

It's not easy putting ourselves out there to be judged and criticized - yet we must stand up for what we believe - we must make our voice heard - we must start living right now.

Are YOU ready to live now?

YOU have so much potential in you right now which is lying dormant...because of your fear!

I spent years fearing too...i still get into my own head at times...but the more i put myself out there through my work the more prayers i get from everyone for showing up and shining my light because they needed to hear and read what i said because in that moment it was what they needed to get back on track on living a life of purpose.

God has blessed you - and you reading this need to be grateful for all His gifts to you and declare that from this moment on now you are going to live the life you were created to live.

God don't create no junk - He only creates awesome diamond souls like YOU!

I hope this helped now! :) 

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Love, duas and light!

​Nadia, your Personal Peak Performance & Mindset Transformation Mentor-Coach-Consultant

So, as my daily personal development, I read a lot of  books and articles and listen to audios and podcasts.

Articles are from all those newsletters that I have signed up to - a teacher is ALWAYS a student - so I am constantly working on making myself a better human - so constantly learning.

I read eBooks I have online (on goes my laptop again) or books I have brought.

I am a crazy book lover!

These books also inspire and motivate me in my writings and help me share and teach personal development from an Islamic perspective.

One book which I am re-reading for the umpteenth time, which I highly recommend you buy, and which teaches me valuable lessons and enhances my psychology teachings and NLP training is 'Get Off YOUR "But"' by Sean Stephenson.

If you don't know who Sean is then please Google him and watch his YouTube channel - his story will put your own life into perspective - BIG TIME!

So anyways, I was on Chapter 5 where he talks about choosing our friends - or as he calls it our 'Pit Crew' and friends who are 'takers, drainers and destroyers'.

He also talks about us as someone else's pit crew.

I have written about this before but today I really wanted to look into this further - look at ourselves deeper than looking at our friends.

I could talk about these takers, drainers and destroyers - but honestly - just buy his book as he does an awesome job explaining it.

Today I am going to turn things around.

It's time to take an honest look inside of our own soul.

It's time for a PIT STOP!

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Sometimes it is easy to look at others or as the topic in Sean's book 'our friends' and that is all good.

And as I mentioned he does talk about us - how we need to look at ourselves also as we form someone's pit crew too.

But let's be honest here - we all know that truth hurts - I know that for sure! I've felt it!

*Face - hand*

But the thing is, only by taking a serious look at ourselves can we truly better ourselves.

It is always easy to blame others.

I blame my cat all the time!

Ok, not always - she's a good girl!

In my work and especially on social media I always say that, 'we need to work on ourselves'.

Only by working on our challenges, issues, emotional blockages can we truly free ourselves from this shackle and negative psychological loop.

Take a deep breath in - hold - breathe out.

Ask yourself....

'Am I an Asset or a Liability?'

* Am I a good child, parent, friend, co-worker, human...?

* Are you working on bettering yourself daily and focusing inwards to see what work needs to be done or are you spending your time pointing fingers at others??

* Are you a taker, drainer or destroyer?

* Do you always take from people (money, time, energy, clothes) and never give in return?

* Do you always complain about what is wrong in your life and not working and how it is doomy gloomy everywhere - and drain your friends and basically bust their happy bubble?

* Or do you always put your friends down - especially when they are hurting or have a dream or ambition they want to fulfill - do you destroy their confidence or disrespect them in front of their loved ones?

I bet right now (betting is haraam!) that your stomach is churning, and you may even feel upset or angry!

Hey, listen, no one said this 'working on bettering myself' thing was going to be easy.

I've done the above exercises myself and oh boy did I get peeved, upset and angry and the almost '...but it was her....'

I've done this process too and continue to do so!

And my best-friend-soul-sistah is reading this so 'Nikki - I love you and you're the bestest ever!' :D

Anyways, we need to go through this process and when you book your VIP Day with me this is the type of process and exercise we will do - we look inwards and see where we can possibly change things and work to make ourselves better.

We need to become assets to the Ummah and humanity.

There are plenty of liabilities out there - just read the gossip columns or gossip magazine or your facebook feed!

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Actually, skip that - it'll just depress you.

Bottom line for today - although we need to choose A* Players (friends) for our Pit Crew - we also need to be that A* Players (friends) for others Pit Crews.

“Be not friend with a fool, for he will harm you while meaning to do good to you.” (Anon)

There are so many verses from the Qur'an as well as ahaadith about friendship and companionship.

Here are just a few....

"Anyone who criticises you cares about your friendship. Anyone who makes light of your faults cares nothing about you.” Abu Dawud, Hasan Hadith

And...

“Mix with the noble people, you become one of them; and keep away from evil people to protect yourself from their evils.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

From the Qur'an...

“And (remember) the Day when the wrong-doer will bite his hands and say: Woe to me! Would that I had taken a path with the Messenger. Woe to me! If only I had not taken so- and-so as a friend! He has led me astray from this Reminder (the Qur’an) after it had come to me. And Satan is ever a deserter to man in the hour of need.” (Al-Qur’an 25:27-29)

We all know this hadith...

“The example of a good companion and a bad companion is like that of the seller of musk, and the one who blows the blacksmith’s bellows. So as for the seller of musk then either he will grant you some, or you buy some from him, or at least you enjoy a pleasant smell from him. As for the one who blows the blacksmith’s bellows then either he will burn your clothes or you will get an offensive smell from him.” (Al-Bukhari and Muslim)

Also from the Qur'an...

“Friends on that Day will be enemies one to another, except the righteous.” (Al-Qur’an 43:67)

And finally (although there are more and I know you want them - I'll let you research them and pop them in the comments below)...

“A person is likely to follow the faith of his friend, so look whom you befriend.” Abu Dawud and at-Tirmidi

Now, time for a Pit Stop and ask yourself; 'Am I an asset or a liability?'

Tips and Action Points:

1.  Grab your journal or notebook and on three separate pages draw a mind map and in the middle of each one write the words, 'Taker, Drainer and Destroyer'

2. Go through all your friends and in each mind map write down what you have taken, drained or destroyed from these friends - if you have - if you haven't that is OK.

3. Call up your friends (if you can and if they are still in your life) and make peace with them and apologise. If they are no longer in your life then read two rakah's nafl for forgiveness and make dua for them and ask Allah to bless them in this world and next.

4. After you have done this exercise for yourself - which I know is the hardest - but we have to do it to start being that good person we want to be - then do this exercise for your friends and see which friend is a taker, drainer and destroyer. You may need to spend less time with these friends or these friendships may be toxic and getting you into trouble so you'll have to bless them on their path and start fresh. 

Now, I know this is a tough cookie - however - we need to start taking full responsibility for our lives and actions and by doing this exercise it will help greatly. It has helped me a lot!

Comment below and let me know how this exercise went for you and to enquire about our VIP Days (Read more about VIP Days here)


Hmmm...the title of this blog post; 'PIT STOP! Are YOU an Asset or a Liability?' - sounds like a name for an upcoming book...what do you think? :D