...One of the hardest things for any human being is to admit they are wrong!

We rather spend our lives justifying why something happened, how it could have been avoided, oh and wait for it - the big one, why it's someone else's fault!

There's many reasons why we don't want to acknowledge that the fault may be totally and completely ours. 

One word.....

EGO!!!

In one of my coaching sessions with my client I was told how one of her employees turned and twisted everything around - everything she had said - and then blamed it back on her!

Even after she had explained what she was saying her employee refused to listen.

This cost her a lot for her business - time, money, energy, valuable business contacts!

Have any of you had that happen in a business capacity?

What about your personal life?

Misconceptions? Misunderstandings? 

Especially when you know someone for such a long time and you have been friends or work colleagues and then all of a sudden everything ends.

How many times have we messed our lives up because we 'refused' to listen to the explanation or insisted that it was the other persons fault?

And the emotional pain that comes with such situations - Ya Allah - it really does mess us up!

The employee used what we call 'Victim Mentality' and then made out to be the innocent victim who always gets 'hurt' and get this that same employee had a pattern of similar behaviour in all areas of their life!

I previously wrote an in-depth article on this whole topic called; 'I'm a Victim - Get ME out of HERE! Do have a read of it insha'Allah  

We need to learn emotional intelligence.

Seriously!

It's not about IQ anymore or what top university you studied at or company you worked for but it's about being emotionally aware and having emotional intelligence - knowing our emotions and dealing with them effectively.

I will be teaching a Masterclass on this subject in my Success Club and I hope you can join me insha'Allah (details coming up soon).

One of the ways to become emotionally aware or have greater awareness about our life and purpose is to know our Creator.

"And be not like those who forsook Allah, so He made them forsake their own souls: these it is that are the transgressors." {Surah Al Hashr 59:19} (partial).

If we spend our time getting to know our Creator by reading and studying the Qur'an, studying ahaadith and learning the meanings of Allah's names and attributes then we achieve a greater awareness about ourself and it stops us wasting time on petty stuff and in fact it helps us to understand why certain things happened or happen in our lives and how to heal our wounds.

Of course this doesn't happen overnight.

It's a process.

So right now give yourselves the permission to understand your live events and your purpose of creation and to take a step towards healing your wounds - and before you say it - YES it CAN be done!

Many have done it before us and are living abundant lives.

And when we do take this step then all the jealousy, envy, hatred and diseases of the heart will be rectified insha'Allah.

Abu Hamzah Anas bin Malik (may God be pleased with him), who was the servant of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) reported that the Prophet (peace be upon him) said: “None of you truly believes (in Allah and in His religion) until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself” [Bukhari and Muslim]

Again this really is a process and sometimes it comes with maturity but if you are reading this right now then you have no excuse to ignore it but to go deep within yourself and start to make those positive changes now insha'Allah.

You and I are students of life and we are a work in progress - so let's work this.

And anyway if you are someone who is prone to 'It's not me it's you' then seriously you'll only attract the same like-minded people and miss out on all the good opportunities in life and create a bad record of yourself wherever you go - and I know that you don't want that for yourself.

So let's fix up before we get fixed up!

* Action Points & Tips:

1. Grab your journal or notebook, set aside 30 minuets for self-reflection and reflect!

2. Write down what it is that is hurting you - is it being neglected, ignored, rejected (this one is my issue - and sometimes it can still bring me down - but alhamdulilah I've learned a lot in the past 3 years).

3. What situation caused this to happen - i.e. someone you loved ignored you etc.

4. Take a deep breath and release and then let them go - accept it happened, it's done, lessons learned, time to live in the now (this may be hard at first - but as I said it's a process so start now insha'Allah).

5. Need professional help? Then it is available! Have some maturity please to help yourself - we know from the ayah of the Qur'an that Allah will not change a condition of a people until they don't change it within themselves. You have an opportunity right now to help yourself heal and live a good life that you were created to live.

What are you waiting for? 

We need to become a productive Ummah and learn maturity. 

Our pious predecessors achieved so much with so little and here we are today that we can't even help ourselves - when in reality we can.

Ask yourself; 'Am I happy like this?'

Now say bismillah and get working on yourself insha'Allah.

I would love to hear your thoughts on this. Have you experienced someone who is always the victim of everyone's behaviour? Are you the 'everyone always blames me' type or are you someone who has been both? Let me know insha'Allah. Comment below and share this post :)


[Pssst - I've been both types in my life!!!] 

...Usually it's when we have 'lost' everything that we find 'God' or understand His value in our life (after all He is our Creator).

But I think every moment has something to teach us - something of value - which we can actually apply in our life (usually immediately).

This past week I have learned a lot of different lessons.

Lesson in humbleness, lessons in asking for and receiving help, lessons of realising who sees my worth and who doesn't.

My mission here on planet earth is actually quite simple.

My passion in life is to help people creatively find their unique purpose in life and to align it with our ultimate purpose of worshiping God alone (not associating any partners or equals with Him as He (swt) alone is Enough!).

I've also learned lesson of those who really do believe in me and are helping me to nurture my gifts, skills, talents and abilities which God has loaned to me so I can do some great stuff for our Ummah, Humanity and all Creation.

If someone does not see how you can benefit them or their organisation then it is their loss - let it be - you tried - I tried - let it be now.

For when we are completely emptied of everything we realise that God is Enough.

We do all for Him alone. To Him we belong and to Him is our return.

You continue being you.

Ask God to purify your intention and sincerity at each moment and ask Him to bless your time.

Just do what you were created to do.

It is not about fame or celebrity status - and I think we should all be rich and financially free so we can help those who have nothing.

You and I have a lot - alhamdulilah.

Once again I have learnt - God is Enough for me! :)

...You know something...God is always helping us. It's just that we get too busy and comfy in our own little bubble that we don't realise He is helping us. I mean, even waking up alive is from Him alone. Once we develop self-awareness we start making those positive changes. We have to take the first step now.

But sometimes we need a helping hand. We need someone who understand us and can help us - show us some opportunities that we may have overlooked.

As humans we can get so caught up and wrapped up in our emotions that we lose sight of what is ahead of us - opportunities!

I know they say that when one door closes another opens.

But I think that in the grand scheme of things all doors of opportunities are always in front of us - we just get caught up in the shiny object syndrome or obsessed with one idea and forget the other doors even exist.

You feel me on this?

God is always ready to hep us - always.

And as soon as we are ready to take the first step He (swt) will do the rest and I know that you've already experienced this in life :)

If you're ready to take that first step right now then I invite you to explore a new business opportunity which I joined and now recruiting a team.

Start the week on a positive note - Bismillah-ExCel!

• Are YOU a stay-at-home or single mum with young kids struggling to pay for bills and put food on the table?

• Are YOU a student who wants to be in control of your student fees and finances and make an extra income?

• Are YOU someone sick of your job and want to take on your next challenge now?

Then YOU could be the one for my awesome new team!

YOU MUST BE...

• Highly positive, open to explore, coachable and ready to make a difference

• Age 18+

• UK & Global, female/male

You must be wondering why I started a new biz when I already have countless brands and why this post is called 'For My Parents'.

Well this new biz is for my parents....

I have elderly parents who have given me everything and I failed in my promises to give them what they deserve.

Now enough is enough. I will be responsible with my time and energy and will work hard to provide for them.

And I want to share this opportunity with you now and show YOU how you can do it too insha'Allah.

This is NOT a get rich scheme!!! 

I'm an entrepreneur - I know the risks of running a business. You put in the hours you will see the results and with Allah by our side we will succeed.

Listen, I know it's not easy staying on top of bills and a family to look after. I feel you. I go through this too!

My parents deserve a good life - and they have taught me to help others.

I live at home with my parents and they are my first teachers.

They don't care who you are or where you are from - if you need help - they will help.

And you don't want monetary handouts - what will that achieve in the long run? 

Allah has given you the ability to earn a halaal income - that's what my parents have taught me.

This is for them - to ease their burdens in their old age and to pay forward what they have taught me - to help others help themselves!

This is my 'WHY' - why do I do what I do? To see my parents have a good life.

What is YOUR why?

Why do YOU want to earn an extra income or start a business?

Set your intention now and make dua for sincerity and then apply to join my 'Diamonds-Are-Forever' Business Coaching & Mentoring Program right now.

To apply to join my team email: [email protected] <Subject Line: Business Opportunity>

Isn't it time you took responsibility for you and explored this new opportunity now? :)

[PS: I have a lot of people contact me to join my team - I need to close down the program so I can focus on those who have applied and joined. So if you are ready to explore then contact right now as this opportunity is open for the next 12 hours only!]

Wishing YOU and YOUR loved ones a blessed, productive and successful year ahead :)

We don't usually 'celebrate' or 'wish' each other when it is the Islamic New Year - but why not?

I agree that our Beloved Prophet (pbuh) and his companions did not wish each other - and I'm not adding a new thing into our deen (before you go all crazy on me) - however in a world where our youth are confused and constantly told 'halaal/haraam' - we need to teach them about our deen - we need to teach them about the Islamic months and their significance. We need to relate to them.

In a world where our fellows humans are constantly harmed or tortured by fellow humans we need to spread some peace love and lots and lots of duas.

So my dua is that Allah (swt) showers His infinite mercy on each of us - puts barakah in our life, time and purifies our intentions and sincerity.

We have one life here on planet Earth and each moment is our only moment.

Make each moment count.

Aspire to inspire before we expire.

Live a life on purpose with purpose.

Do something great for yourself, your family, the Ummah of Rasool-Allah and the entire humanity.

Be Creative. Be Passionate. Be on Purpose.

[Ps - We have a special Masterclass coming up insha'Allah to set the tone for the year ahead and my new baby niece came into the world today!]