How do you deal with your emotions? Are you 'releasing or recycling?' So i just learnt about this concept. When we are dealing with any of our challenges we are either actively releasing our emotions or recycling them. Releasing is when we have dealt with our emotions - actively - and time span is different for us all as we are all different - and then we get to a stage where we release our emotions and we begin to heal. This is when you start to feel ease, peace and calm within and you are actively getting on with your life - no more random tear sessions when hearing that song or seeing that picture. Recycling is the stage where we keep repeating and repeating. We go through the whole 'Why' syndrome and is something i have also done and sometimes i have deliberately allowed myself to stay down this road longer than i should have and i have 'suffered' the consequences and yes suffering is optional - we have within us the ability to switch into the now and be OK only if we give ourselves permission. Many people stay stuck in the recycling stage and so did i - especially in my teens and twenties. I guess it's because it is comforting - as in we get used to our comfort zone and don't want to stretch ourselves but deep inside we know that if we do stretch ourselves we will learn and grow. Releasing one's emotions doesn't happen overnight - especially when it involves the loss of a loved one. We naturally go through phases to understand it all and be OK. Another thing is that many times we - yes females and males - were brought up to just 'deal with it and get over it' yet that same person would be eating their own words (we've all experienced that). Healing begins as soon as we accept that God has something awesome planned for us and that He does not burden our souls more than we can handle and that He already knows we can handle it and He is looking at our response - whether we'll be grateful or ungrateful and how we will react. Healing begins when we understand our emotions and what triggers us and we realise that we have the power to change our state by changing our thoughts as we create our thoughts and we can direct them where we want. Healing begins when we let go and let God. I hope this helps! :)
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So i was in my front garden looking at my gorgeous and newly cut hedge when i noticed some dead leaves in there. They were brown and crumpled up and so i decided to clean it up and started picking them out one by one. As i started to clean it up there seemed to be more buried in the hedge deeply - so i thought OK no worries, let me pick them out too. I continued and as per usual now i was in a rush to get to the end of the hedge so my shoulders dropped and i was like 'urgh, hurry up already' - my gorgeous freshly cut hedge started to feel slightly over-bearing - but i still continued because it was somewhat therapeutic too - you know, how you do things and just let your mind relax to whatever and wonder about... As i continued i noticed i missed some bits here and there so i went back to pick them out and then this kind of continued for about a few minutes. I kept missing bits or they were buried deep within. It was at this exact moment i had one of those epiphany/ah-ha/breakthrough moments! I just stopped and allowed it all to sink it for a few moments. I rush to get things done to get to the end of the line - not so i am a winner - but just because i'm in a rush to get things done that i miss out some of life's finer details - those which can seriously benefit me in the long term. ..... DEEP! Have you ever had this happen to you too? We think we have got rid of those negative thoughts, that bad relationship/friendship, disempowering habit and we are starting fresh but we sometimes miss the finer details or we think that once we have made this change then that is it, we won't need to put any more effort into it as magically everything will always be OK from this point. I mean, how many times have we started to pray all of our prayers on time and we feel like a hero only to slowly slip back into that bad routine again? Why? Because we were not consistent with it and we did not stay with it long enough to make sure we continue with it successfully. We also may fall into this trap where we think we got rid of that bad habit or relationship yet fall into a similar type of habit or relationship again? Why? Because we missed out on the finer details of really clearing up the clutter - the clutter which is within us and so the same patterns keep appearing. I was just out enjoying the sun and admiring the freshly cut hedge when Allah wanted me to learn a real big lesson in life! Subhan'Allah! I need to learn to pace myself, i need to learn to be more consistent and i need to learn to work on those habits - if i get rid of something i need to search within and see where i need to work on and heal so i don't create the same habits in other areas and create lasting and positive change insha'Allah. "Verily! In the creation of the heavens and the earth, and in the alternation of night and day, there are indeed signs for men of understanding." [Qur'an; 3:190] Allah is always showing us signs and teaching us lessons through it - are we ready to learn and answer His call? I hope this helped in your journey right now. Let me know in the comments below what resonated with you the most :) Start your journey here with instant soul therapy and heart relief! ...Open your heart and let 'The Light' through. Too many of us are 'suffering' from various challenges (problems/issues). And then we turn to social media for some solace or relief - which can, sometimes, be more detrimental than helpful! 'He said, "I only complain of my suffering and my grief to Allah , and I know from Allah that which you do not know.' [Qur'an; 12:86] partial Suffering is optional - we have the ability to change our state instantaneously. The more we 'think' about these things the more our heart is 'clogged' up with the unnecessary. Energy flows where intention goes. Where is your intention going? Sure enough that is where your energy is flowing and it is either healthy for you or sucking your life away. You don't have to be 'stuck' in that pain no more because challenges have solutions. Too many of us are addicted to drama and get our love and comfort through it. This is victim mentality and self-sabotage. You are better than this and your awesome life awaits you now. Now is the time to let go and let God. Now is the time to open your heart and let The Light through. Now is the time to start creating those positive changes in your life, live upon the deen and prepare for your best akhirah. You were created for excellence and in the best form - so do everything with excellence. God is with you now and as soon as you let go and turn your face to Him (swt) - He (swt) will open your heart, pour light through it and guide you to your destiny. Ready to begin living your awesome life now? "O Allah, I am Your slave and the son of Your male slave and the son of your female slave . My forehead is in Your Hand (i.e. you have control over me) . Your Judgment upon me is assured and Your Decree concerning me is just . I ask You by every Name that You have named Yourself with , revealed in Your Book , taught any one of Your creation or kept unto Yourself in the knowledge of the unseen that is with You , to make the Qur'an the spring of my heart, and the light of my chest, the banisher of my sadness and the reliever of my distress." (Hadith Ahmad) It's time to live a life on purpose with purpose. Take a deep breath in - hold - breathe out - relax and be open to receiving love, duas and light now. Feel that? I hope this helps and let me know in the comments below what resonated with you the most. I don't know if this is what you want right now but I created this audio program with you in mind and right now is the last time to get it at the introductory offer. Click here to read more! Recently I've been working this whole 'Let Go & Let God!' concept i.e. whilst keeping full tawakul in Allah and working hard, handing it all over to Him (swt) and asking Him (swt) to do the best and being ready and prepared to accept whatever is sent my way. I have to say i'm in one of my very calm and relaxed modes and allowing whatever to happen, happen. I'm loving it! "Indeed, I have turned my face toward He who created the heavens and the earth, inclining toward truth, and I am not of those who associate others with Allah." {Qur'an; 6:79} You may be hurting right now and it's real painful and no one gets you. I know how that feels as I'm one of those who always had a challenge expressing my feelings - even to friends. Oh and then sometimes you get laughed at or ignored - like your issue ain't no big deal. But it is a big deal to you - I know! And the thing is that social media has become so accessible that we turn to it for minute details and instant comfort. But we know this instant 'comfort' doesn't last. So, what now? You're still hurting and still want answers right? Listen, if you're facing some challenges right now and just want an answer or an opening to something new or just some peace then i say do what i do; 'Let Go & Let God' - for this moment is all we have and this moment could be our last - as when all is said and done, to Him we belong and to Him is our return! 'Those to whom hypocrites said, "Indeed, the people have gathered against you, so fear them." But it [merely] increased them in faith, and they said, "Sufficient for us is Allah , and [He is] the best Disposer of affairs."' {Qur'an; 3:173} I hope this helps and let me know in the comments below what resonated with you the most and how you'll be moving forward with this message now :) You know i'm here to help you insha'Allah. I created this audio program just for you. Masha'Allah many have invested in it and have started to make those positive changes in their life so they can live upon the deen and prepare for their best akhirah now insha'Allah. Grab your audio program 'How to get Instant Soul Therapy & Heart Relief' right here. "And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad], concerning Me - indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me. So let them respond to Me [by obedience] and believe in Me that they may be [rightly] guided." partial {Qur'an 2; 186} Love, duas and light Nadia - Your Spiritual, Creative and Personal Peak Performance Mentor Coach Ps: If there is one piece of advice which i can give you after studying and practicing personal and spiritual peak performance for the last 20 years then it is this; 'You will always be a daily work in progress and each step will take you closer to your ultimate final destination. Keep the end in mind always!' Take the first step and invest in yourself and grab the audio program; 'How to get Instant Soul Therapy & Heart Relief!' *(Image found on Google and copyright to some Diamond Soul who i have never met - thank you for these words, they really helped. God Bless You!) Giving ourselves permission to just 'BE' seems alien to most people. In my workshops and coaching this is one of the first concepts i cover and many have appreciated exploring this area and working through it. They all get instant transformations walhamdulilah. Why do we forget about this concept? Because we get caught up in our day to day and don't stop to breathe and take in the silence. And because of this we have constant soul and heart ache and we don't understand what has gone loopy for us. When faced with such challenges we may hit social media to get some therapy or reassurance. Wrong place! All we need to do is learn to silence our mind. Let go of everything and anything that doesn't serve our soul and our true purpose. Eternal happiness comes from living our souls purpose - worshipping God. So, with this in mind, live your awesome life now, make those positive changes and prepare for your best afterlife. Let go and let God. Call on God for He (swt) is listening to your call. "And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad], concerning Me - indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me. So let them respond to Me [by obedience] and believe in Me that they may be [rightly] guided." partial Qur'an 2; 186 Turn inwards and reconnect with your soul and talk to your Creator - this will help your soul to heal. But many of you reading this won't take it on board! Why? Because we are just addicted to drama and drama gives us attention and comfort! We are fooling no one except ourselves here. Anas (radhiallahu anhu) said that he heard the Messenger of Allah (sallallahu alaihi wa-sallam) say: “Allah the Exalted said: “O son of Adam! As long as you invoke Me and plead to Me, I will forgive you whatever you have committed, and I will not make much of it. O son of Adam! If your evil deeds reach the borders of the sky, and then you ask Me for forgiveness, I will forgive you. O son of Adam! If you bring forth the earth full of errors, then you meet Me while you do not associate anything (or anyone) with Me, I will bring forth for you its full of forgiveness.” [At-Tirmidhee (Shaikh Albanee rendered it as Hasan)] If there is one piece of advice which i can give you after studying and practicing personal and spiritual peak performance for the last 20 years then it is this; 'You will always be a daily work in progress and each step will take you closer to your ultimate final destination. Keep the end in mind always!' Quit the drama - it is not serving your ultimate soul purpose! Let me help you help your soul to heal. Click here now to get instant soul therapy and heart relief Leave me your thoughts in the comments below and do {SHARE the KHAIR} :) How do you react when you face a challenge? Do you look for solutions or do you quit? 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(Just a quick one - the training is worth £197 but i'm gifting it to you for absolutely FREE and and the end of the Masterclass i have more gifts for you AND an opportunity for you to join the Ramadan-Spiritual-Fix-Club where i will be personally mentoring and coaching you through the last half of Ramadan insha'Allah). So, hurry and watch the vid and if you want to secure your seat first then CLICK HERE TO REGISTER RIGHT NOW! Last Thursday my cousin brother was taken into hospital in an emergency as he threw up blood. They put him on the machines straight away to ease the pain and so they can do scans. On Friday at 5pm we got a phone call from his elder brother that he only has a few hours left. We rushed to the hospital in a taxi and guess what nasheed was playing? 'Oh traveler you are here for a few years and the grave is your ultimate destination'. I was shaking all the way from home to the hospital. I had always heard about ICU but on Friday i experienced it for real. I don't think i want to experience it again. Well, not for a long while anyway! We walked through the first double doors - me, my mum and dad and my nephew - and everyone was there. My aunties, uncles, nieces, nephews, my cousins wife and kids - even extended family. I hugged my niece and she said; 'Chacha (uncle) is leaving us. His 11 year old son was sitting next to her...quiet. Walked through the second double doors and saw another family in another room leaving, crying. Walked through the third double doors and the room was packed! All i could hear was Surah Yaseen being recited loudly by my uncles and few other relatives reciting the kalima loudly. I slowly walked forward....and there he was...on the bed....on the machines... I grew up at my aunties house (khala) as a kid and my cousin brothers used to take me over. I grew up as their little baby sister. I was there at ICU for 7 hours and said my goodbyes. I came home and tossed and turned all night. At 7am my mum told me that he returned to Allah. His heart went down and down and they switched the machines off and at 4am the Angel of Death took him. Saturday was his Janazah and we sent him off. He had nour shining from his face and he was smiling. Over 100 people attended the burial and every single person praised his character and personality and continues to praise him. Let my brothers death be a reminder for us all - because reminders benefit the believers and as humans we need constant reminders - we easily forget and get caught up in this life. - He had been ill for 3 years and he left this world within 48 hours. - He was scheduled for an appointment in London in 6 weeks for treatment yet his appointment with Allah came before that. - He was the youngest of his brothers and his elderly mum is poorly. Yet his time came. How many times have we heard of instant deaths when someone was absolutely fine and the next minute they're gone? This teaches us that this life is not a guarantee for 100+ years. We don't take anything with us except our deeds. We don't even have to have an illness and our time could be up. So let's ask ourselves; * Am I praying all my 5 compulsory prayers on time? * Am I spending time with the Qur'an daily? * Am I doing dhikr and tasbee and keeping my tongue moist with the remembrance of Allah? * Am I actively seeking knowledge and implementing it in my life? * Am I learning about the rules and rites of life and death and everything in between? Because the reality is that you and I don't know about all the rites and rules! The reality is that we're living in ignorance and even in sin. Even when we find out the rules and rites we actively choose to ignore it. We listen to laws by man yet ignore those by Allah. We don't actively seek to know so live in ignorance and sin. We have no one to blame! No western illuminati masonicy conspiracy cult. Nope! You and I are to blame! Right now we seek Allah's forgiveness from our ignorance. Right now we decide to seek knowledge, implement it and teach it. Right now we prepare for our meeting with the Angel of Death. Right now is when we decide to live on purpose with purpose. If you've read this then now you're not in ignorance any more. Now you decide which path to take. Let's take the path which leads to Allah. My cousin Ramzan was in his early 40's and leaves behind his elderly, poorly mum, brothers, nieces and nephews. He also leaves behind a wife who is 35 years old and 5 children age 14, 11, 7, 6 and 5. Please keep them in your duas as they are the ones whose life has changed forever.... A personal reflection... They say that it has to get worse to get better. They were right! March 2010 - April 2014 I still get flashbacks! I go into deep reflection mode and get emotional and teary! I go quiet... I'm teary writing this... Even back then walhamdulilah I still got to do a two week KSC Easter Playscheme through the drama and went London for an evening workshop. Only through God's will and Mercy did I make it through those two weeks in April. God is Great! April 2010 - I thought it was the beginning of 'The End'. April 2014 - Am I still alive? Wow, subhan'Allah - I still pinch me to make sure it's real. God is Great! Everything is not what it always seems - especially on social media. Don't be fooled by my 'khaapiness' on display. There's a reason why I'm still alive and there's a reason why you are alive and reading this. There's a reason why I do the personal and spiritual development work I do today. Everyone is on a journey. This journey is back to God. This moment is all we have. I promised that if I got better through my illness I would make each my moments count. It's not funny being 'alive' and telling your family 'I might die and we need to prepare now' and trying to be ok with it all. It's not funny sitting at hospital alone not taking your family with you so they won't be upset and getting those biopsies and stuff. The Nurse: 'You're a brave girl!' Me in my head: 'It hurts lady - it hurts! I just don't wana show you my tears!' And yes I cried when I left that hospital! It's not funny trying to fake smile at your nieces during the playscheme and lying to them; 'Don't worry - I'm ok - everything is ok!' And they know everything is not ok. It's not funny seeing your Mama trying to be ok as she might lose her youngest and being brave. Everyone is on a journey. I know you have your story too. It's ok if no one gets you - I get that all the time! I'm misunderstood most the times! Remember though Allah has put you here for a reason. Be ok with that and do what you gotta do - even if no one gets you. Coz we're all on a journey and it's all gona end soon. Make the most of yours - make your moments count - as this moment is all we have... I know I don't share this with y'all - but I am today - just so you get a glimpse into my world and maybe it gives you some soul therapy too. Nadia x |
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