They are on the increase - you can find them almost everywhere - I mean EVERYWHERE! Just turn the corner, and there! Ready to make their move! They are on the increase - I warn you! Across the globe this phenomenon is increasing - in masses - not like, you know, one or two - but a mass movement! Beware of these Assassins! OK, so who am I talking about and what is this new mass movement and should you be worried?! Well yes YOU should be worried! In fact we should all be alert - because anyone can fall victim to these assassins - I did – many years ago and I did again TODAY! OMG! Who are they? Usually someone who knows you - close friends, family and relatives. Could also be colleagues or random souls - could be YOU! Listen Up! - It’s not like your usual assassination - well I mean I wasn't going to blog about politicians being assassinated - you have the media to keep you informed about that - I'm a personal development blogger! They are ‘Character Assassinators!’ Character Assassination (and yes this term actually exists - Google it) - is the act of tarnishing someone’s reputation through verbal abuse, slander, vicious and malicious lies. Sometimes it happens because of a misunderstanding - like gossip or hearsay. But sometimes it happens because some people have evil intent - and they are feeding the evil of their own nafs (souls). “O you who have believed, avoid much [negative] assumption. Indeed, some assumption is sin. And do not spy or backbite each other. Would one of you like to eat the flesh of his brother when dead? You would detest it. And fear Allah; indeed, Allah is Accepting of repentance and Merciful.” {Surah Al-Hujurat, 49:12} And... Prophet Muhammad (pbuh) once asked: "Do you know what backbiting is?" His companions replied: "Allah and His Messenger know best." He (pbuh) then said: "It is to say something about your brother that he would dislike." Someone asked: "But what if what is said is true?" The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) replied: "If what you say about him is true, then you have backbitten him, but if it is not true then you have slandered him." [Muslim] Judging someone’s character is wrong - morally and religiously and if someone has a point to make then bring forth evidence. Also if we want to give nasiha to someone - advice - the best practise is to do it in private. The Messenger of Allah (pbuh) said, "Religion (dîn) is sincerity (nasiha) (corrective advice, good counsel and sincere conduct). The dîn is nasiha. The dîn is nasiha." They asked, "To whom, Messenger of Allah?" He said, "To Allah and His Book and His Messenger and the Imams (leaders) of the Muslims and the common people." (Hadith Muslim) I am blogging about this today because as I said above it is something I have personally been through this many times in my life (no I'm not looking for sympathy of any sort - far from it - I'm doing my duty in making you aware of certain evils out there) and its extremely painful - especially when it comes from someone very close to you. But the funny thing is that it actually happened again – earlier today – and I had already scheduled to write about this topic a week ago! If there has been a misunderstanding - then talk about it, discuss it, do it in a proper manner with proper etiquette's - not just jump in the deep end and start accusing and judging their character. That is very wrong - the religion of Islam does not allow such assassinations - well in fact it doesn't allow assassinations full stop! The tongue is a very powerful tool - it can make or break - and it can cut deep - leaving wounds which may never heal again. “Let not your tongue cease to be moist with the remembrance of Allah, mighty is He and majestic.” (Hadith Tirmidhi, Ahmad). Not everyone in this world has the support I have - I am truly blessed - not everyone is confident enough to shine through - pick oneself up, reflect and become stronger (for many reasons and I was once like this myself). We are all different. Just imagine - when we say 'you look beautiful today' - the smile on that persons face - they are instantly uplifted - and if we say 'you look so ugly' - it can instantly send someone straight to the dumps and yes those were just basic daily examples - you can think of your own (I'm sure you all have many examples to add). Our purpose on this planet is not to hurt anyone - we are created to worship the Creator - do good and spread good. Let’s not forget our biggest enemy - the one who has vowed to lead us astray - all he has to do is whisper - and we can slip... Character Assassination - it’s on the increase! Please be aware of it and protect yourselves. And if you fall prey to these assassins then remember 'truly to Allah we belong and to Him we shall return' - these assassins will have to account for their actions and words. To tarnish someone’s reputation and slander them is a big sin - to hurt your brothers and sisters in Islam and humanity is a sin - you don't look cool and that! You look plain nasty! If you have been a victim then fear not there is hope - you will get through it - you will be OK - call on your Lord and He is there for you! (See also today’s tips and action points) If you're a character assassin yourself [REFLECTION MOMENT] and this has become your new full time job - then beware of the fire - whose fuel is men and stones - beware of the Day when you will also be judged and your character will be displayed in front of the whole mankind! (The Day when we all want our bad deeds to be hidden!) Change your ways - there is still time - don't become a blind follower of the devil - he's not your friend - his only mission is to lead you, me and us to the fire of hell... Beware of these Assassins!.... Tips and Action Points: 1. Keep yourself protected through daily Salah, Qur’an, Dhikr and Duas. 2. Make sure you read the daily morning and evening adhkaars – these keep us protected 3. Stay in wudhu as much as possible. 4. Sleep in wudhu – read duas, spit in hands, wipe over body and sleep on right side (Rasool Allah used to do this – it’s sunnah). 5. Check yourself before you wreck yourself: Are YOU the assassin? We have all said and done wrong in life – even me – so now is the time to make amends insha’Allah. Reflect on your life – your friends and connections – your dealings with your loved ones – see whether you may say something hurtful – could be unintentional – so it’s always good for us to reflect – always! 6. Keep yourself busy with deen – ibaadah – as well as your daily life – whether that is studies or work – keep busy in the sense that you don’t waste valuable time in talking nonsense or falling into the trap. 7. Remember we are all human – yes me too! – and so as humans we make mistakes – so reflect, ponder, check yourself, fix yourself – whether you are the victim or the assassin – we still have to work on us – let’s not worry about the other and work on becoming the better version of us insha’Allah.
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Aaliyah
12/3/2015 03:17:46 am
"If there has been a misunderstanding - then talk about it, discuss it, do it in a proper manner with proper etiquette's - not just jump in the deep end and start accusing and judging their character"
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kamaruddin.ahmad
13/3/2015 01:46:04 am
JazakAllah khair sis, for the all the reminders, tips and all the necessary actions and steps to be taken.
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Mohammedrabiu Abdullahi
15/3/2015 03:02:33 am
These tips are routine inspections on our characters. Jazakallahu khairan.
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